How to Stop the Pain of Being Hurt

" Rip the heart out and feel no more... " I would sometimes have this wishful thinking whenever I cry myself to sleep over life's onions and lemons that make my mind scream the word: OUCH! If there were just enough Kleenex on my bedside table, I'm sure to have cried a whole lot more, until the room is flooded with my salty tears.

Reality is, that at some point, we do become tired of crying. No matter how one wants to stop feeling hurt, life is like a light switch: of turning on the bliss and turning off to the darkness of trials and sufferings. There is just no space in between.

I remember an episode of a thriller flick, where the lead character is a smart, pretty young scientist who exchanged her mortal soul to the devil incarnate, so she could invent an artificial replica of herself. She had believed that her soul sits in the presence of her mind and she had succeeded in finding ways to extract her thoughts to the mechanical image of herself. She was so dejected and hurt by men who used and abused her. She had wanted to escape so badly from a deep reproach of her pain and the devil granted her the key. She had finally transplanted her thoughts onto the robot...but without the emotions to will it to move under her mind's control, she became doomed. The devil had the final laugh and didn't even reap her poor soul, for she had created her perfect hell, paralyzed and living forever in an inanimate thing she had made for herself.

It is such an ironic tale and so is - Life. There are many ironies that come our way and we could only stand against it like a brick wall facing a mud slide, or we could flow with it like a flotsam in a river. The truth is, when life hurdles its pies of hurt in our way, we would always have one hitting our face . What must go up.. must come down. The wheel of our lives will always turn, like the Earth's rotation from sunrise until sunset. Nothing is ever permanent.

There are many reasons that bring many kinds of pain in our lives. I, too, am not omniscient to be free from the curse of hurt. It is like a shadow of malice, filling our very beings with feelings of ugliness, lack, hatred, desolation, pity, guilt, and remorse. The very tough have survived and lived to see another day. Yet, there are a few who just quit on life itself and took matters on their own hands, stopping their very existence. I am thankful that I didn't go that far.

Perhaps the most painful hurt I've had is the rejection of a love and the loss of a love. It is painful to see all good things come to an end just because there is no other way, or worst, circumstances are out of control. It can be devastating to feel something so good, so cherished, vanishing into thin air. It is hard letting go, but at some point, I have to learn to be free and live life again the way I dreamt it to be.

In the end, there's really no way of stopping the pain that a hurt brings. Only a positive outlook in life can take off the weight of a burden and make you come out a scarred person, learned and wiser. It is only through acceptance that one can really move on through life's rugged terrain and still have the power to.. SMILE. Self-help books and counsellings could help. A good friend who is ready to listen is a priceless treasure to have. Only through forgiveness shall we see the light at the end of the tunnel, where we then move on to a new light of hope, love and peace. It may not last, but at least, we are free for the moment to enjoy life's amazing graces.

" Love Yourself. You are just human. You are beautiful. You are a Survivor. "